I am almost 2 years into my 20s and already I can tell you it's not what I thought. People make it seem like your 20s is just so full of clarity, fun, and excitement but the reality is, your 20s is nothing but confusion and stress. When you're younger, you're suppose to have your whole life mapped out, know what college you're going to, know what you want to major in, start your career, and start a family all before you turn 30. To me that sounds like a lot of pressure to create this perfect life in just 10 years.
It's great to still be young and have so much life ahead of you but how are you suppose to enjoy it if all you can focus on is your next move? If you're not worrying about school, you're worrying about your job. If you're not stressing about bills to pay, you're stressing about if you're going to find love and have kids before you're 30. Where's the fun? Where's the excitement? Being that I'm at the younger end of my 20s I do feel like I have a lot of time to "set up" my life but here's the next issue... what do I want to do?
If you don't know what you want to do in the first few years of your 20s it feels like you're failing yourself... well that's how I feel. I feel like I've made a plan for everything- finish school by 24, get married by 25/26, have kids at 27-30, and live the rest of my life. But the reality is, I go to school, I go to work, I come home and do homework, then complain about going to work the next day. Occasionally I meet up with friends or go out and enjoy myself. Some say enjoy life as is and everything will fall into place and others say plan now then enjoy the rest of your life.. which is the right thing to do?
If you're in your mid 20s or older, I'm really asking for your advice. How did you manage your 20s? What got you through planning & setting up your schooling, career, and relationships so that the rest of your years can be enjoyed? I just feel stuck right now... :-/